Ep #104: 3 Foundational Competencies for All Leaders
Core competencies are benchmark skills that are needed in particular leadership roles. They are the price of entry, and you can’t function well without them. Today, we’re going to talk about the three most important foundational competencies you need to have as a leader.
What you’ll find in this episode:
- What the 3 foundational competencies are.
- How to build a healthy organization by developing these skills.
- The secret to changing the results that you get from others.
Featured on the Show and Other Notes:
- Link to the John Maxwell video on Instagram.
- We’re having a live virtual retreat for empathic CEOs over 3 days, February 23rd–25th, for one hour each day starting at 7 pm EST/4 pm PST. The event will be recorded, so if you’re unable to attend live, you can still get the content. You will also get a digital workbook. Sign up for interest/invites at theempathicCEO.com
- I’m having a Retreat in Hawaii with my friend Dr. Camille Broussard Wise. We only invited clients and it sold out in a week. This is another great reason to join the “How to CEO” program to learn about these things!
- Come connect with me on Instagram here or on Facebook here.
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Hey, I’m Kris Plachy, host of the Lead Your Team Podcast. Running a million dollar business is not easy, and whether you’re just getting started with building your team or you’ve been at this for a while, I’m going to bring you honest, specific, and clear practices you can use right now, today, to improve how well you lead your team. Let’s go ahead and get started.
Hello. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you for listening today. I’m so glad that you’re here. I’ve been having so much fun on Instagram, for those of you who are on there because I know there’s a lot of newer listeners, my amazing clients keep sharing lessons that they’re learning from the podcasts. And so it’s so fun to know that there’s new people out there. So hi. If you’ve been binge listening, hi, I’m so glad that you’re here. Are you sick of my voice yet?
Okay, I have a few announcements. So, first of all, I decided to do a retreat in Hawaii after much consternation. I know we’re still in the middle of a pandemic, and I think I was pretty open with you all earlier in the year about my feelings about it. I have a lot of pandemic-itis, fear, terror, in some ways. But I really just decided, and I did my research and I got very thoughtful about the facts, and got out of my story and I would like to go. And my daughter is doing online school right now, and so she can go with me. And my good friend, Camille, Dr. Camille Broussard Wise, who also works with me, and her daughter, who plays soccer with my daughter, we’re going to all go together and have a lovely 10 day relaxing by the beach time. And so I thought, “Well, if I’m going to be there, why not just do what I call a Hawaii Gathering?”
I only invited my clients, so wink, wink, another great reason to join the How To CEO Program, because you find out about these things. And we sold it out within a week, you guys, so I’m super excited. Can’t wait to tell you all about it and share it with you. I know it’s going to be amazing and glorious and healing, which is what I think we all need more and more and more of. Whatever heals your spirit, whoever you are, whatever that is, find a way to make it happen. We have been white knuckling for almost 12 months, and you can’t have gone through this without being affected by it, no matter what your perspective is. Heal, find ways to heal. The second thing I would like to invite you to and tell you about is the Empathic CEO Virtual Intensive that I’m doing.
And we changed it up a little. As I was working through the content and then working with Miriam, who helps me with all of our digital work, we really thought about it and decided this makes more sense to do as a three day mini-intensive instead of a full three hour, one day deal. So we’re going to be offering the Empathic CEO Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, the 23rd, 24th, and 25th of February for one hour, each day. Four o’clock, actually, Pacific, seven o’clock Eastern. Everything will be recorded, so if you can’t come and you still want the content, please don’t let that be a reason not to go through this work. I am so incredibly excited to bring it to you. You will also get a digital workbook as a participant in this program. And the goal here is really to help you understand that you are not too sensitive to be a good leader. You don’t have to be suppressing your own emotions or wrangling with them all the time like I think you do when you tend to be more on the empathic side of the scale.
And I know that the systems and the processes and the practices I teach give you clarity, and they also give you peace so that you can do the work you need to do in the world, have the conversations you need to have as a leader, and not feel so tormented inside. So if that’s you, I really want you to come. It’s going to be really reasonable. It’s $497. It’s three days. We’re going to have a special offer to you that we’re going to make during the course, which I think you will find really cool. More on that later. And we’ll be sharing information. So just go to the empathicceo.com, that’s the empathicceo.com, to learn everything you need to learn about it. You can register, you can get more details. I’ve made you a quick video so you can hear more about it. So, again, the empathicceo.com. Tell a friend. I’m super excited about how this work might actually really change so much for all of you.
So today, we’re talking about the three most important, most powerful, most essential, most-est, whatever word you want to insert here, leadership competencies that leaders need to have. What are the most important leadership competencies? Now? I was an ops leader and then I went in and got into coaching inside a company, and so I was then put into the HR learning community and that’s when I really developed more acumen around leadership development and competencies and et cetera. And competencies are really those benchmark skills that businesses say, “These are the core competencies that people need in particular roles. These are the core competencies that managers need, that leaders need.” So a core competency is like price of entry. You can’t function without it. And so that’s how I want you to think about this. And I should say you can’t function well, you can’t function at peak, you can’t deliver.
And when I look at what I teach and what I know is true for the people that thrive through the model and models and practices that I use, these are the three core competencies. And I want to give credit where credit is due, because I was on a walk, every time I’m on a walk, I have these thoughts, and John Maxwell showed up in my Instagram feed. I don’t follow him, which I thought was interesting, but he popped in and it was this really short video. And I really loved it, I sent it to several people. But he was talking about the fact that he said, “Close comes first.” And he said, “When I’m talking to leaders, close comes first. I don’t want fans. I want friends.” And so that got me thinking, there’s two parallel tracks here. The first one is, as a leader, I don’t want people to idolize me or be worshiping or have that kind of a relationship with me, be impressed with me. I want people to feel close to me. And I also invite you to think about this in how you think about your business.
I know a lot of people who are listening to this podcast do a lot of social marketing and selling, and your job through that process is to build a relationship with your client, your potential client, your potential market. And so what I know about you is that, that ability you have to create those relationships can stretch into how you lead and manage a team, but we have to wear it differently because there has to be a level of authenticity to it. So I want to extend my credit to him because this was his direct quote. He says, “Until I can make a connection with you and until you can know that my connection is sincere, I will impress you, but I won’t impact you. I will impress you, but I won’t impact you. We impact people close up. We impress people far away.”
So I loved that because, for me, it echoes my sentiment for how I feel with my team. I like to know the people who work for me and with me. I build relationships with people. It’s part of what I’ve always done, so I do understand that’s a natural tendency of mine. But I also see where the gaps are for my clients where there’s this gap, it’s a hole in the relationship that needs repairing. So how do we repair it? We have to develop these three competencies, and the three core competencies are seeing, hearing, and feeling. And what we know about the human species is that the biggest fear that we have is being ostracized from the tribe and being able to “fit in” so that we are not alienated and expelled. Because in our old, old, old times when we were cave people and frankly, even village people like in the 12th, 13th, 14th, 15th, 16th century, you had to have a tribe.
If you were expelled from your circle, you died. You didn’t have food. You didn’t have fire. And so that’s still very ingrained in who we are. And so, now though, most of us do not live around a fire pit and have to go hunt for our food. Now, we have other dynamics in our relationships, and even though there’s been a tremendous amount of evolution for us as a species, we still have these inherent needs. But what we’re having now, what we’re struggling with now is that, and you can see this because of the increase in depression, the increase in anxiety, we’ve really linked now, we know that depression and anxiety and addiction are symptoms of a lack of connection. And so when we’re at work, with so much of our lives is spent at work, and then if we work for someone who doesn’t see us, who doesn’t hear us, and who doesn’t feel us, it is empty, and then we’re asking these people to engage with us to work hard. It doesn’t work that way.
So I believe for you as a leader, you have to ask yourself, am I willing to do the work of seeing people so they feel seen? Am I willing to do the work to hear people so they feel heard? And am I willing to do the feeling work so that people felt understood, known, validated? As leaders, this is a transition. Some people have been this way forever and that’s why you see some leaders be so effective. You can be a successful leader and generate a ton of revenue and probably not do this over time, but you will not build a healthy organization. And that’s what you have to ask yourself is, what do you want to do? And I think that the reverse is true. So the superpower skills, these competencies of seeing, hearing, and feeling, it also is the opposite, are you willing to be seen? Are you willing to be heard, to say what needs to be said? And are you willing to be felt, to be able to allow yourself the transparency of emotion without perceiving yourself or believing others will perceive you as weak?
That’s why, to me, the Empathic CEO is the game changing solution, insight. I think once you can marry your willingness to see and be seen, hear and be heard, feel and be felt, you will change how you lead and you will change the relationship you have with yourself as a woman who leads and manages and develops people in her company, and you will change the relationship that people have with you, which means you will change the results that you get. I believe that with every ounce of my soul. And I know that’s why you’re struggling, if you are, because there’s a gap in one of those competencies. That’s the truth we have to tell. So there’s going to be more than I’m going to unpack on this. I want you to know that, but I want you to think about it. And, of course, I always want to know what you think so email us at firstname.lastname@example.org. Write a review if you feel so inclined. But please tell me what you think about these three powerful core competencies.
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